A funny thing happened...ha ha.
I posted on the La Leche League Forum asking about help with getting to sleep when the baby sleeps, which has been a great theory but not so great a practice.
Several moms replied that they are simply sleep deprived, even after months and months with their little ones. Jeez! Maybe I'm not so bad off.
Zoe e-mailed some great suggestions, as did Linda Diane - both doulas and incredible women. Great to have friends in wise places.
The forum is interesting; definitely a little bit of momma fanaticism, but also lots of support too.
Interesting how we've created virtual community, there and here. I especially think about the dichotomy of sitting inside at the computer having these heart-to-hearts with strangers while avoiding the Michigan winter cold and illnesses...and my neighbors on three sides have babies, and probably plenty of advice. What, the telephone doesn't work anymore??
2 comments:
thanks for the kind words - here is an even stranger idea.
This is from a client who had trouble whenever she wanted to make love with her partner. The soundly sleeping baby would always wake up and demand attention.
She figured her child could perceive that her attention had moved from him to someone else. So before she turned her attention she would summon angels (her belief system) to watch over the kid and essentially assign the non-physical care of her child to those spirits.
It worked.
Why? Well if you can sleep/make love/whatever who cares?
I'm just saying that if you are very closely psychically linked to your baby it can be hard to let that go even in sleep. You need to sequester that care - hand it over - more deliberately and specifically. You've done the logical practical real transfer --- perhaps there is some need of your own personal emotional/psychic transfer that fits into your own belief system.
Parenting a kid is about gradually ending that amazing link that does exist - unlike parenting a dog for example.
Just a wild thought -- but this advice has been amazingly helpful for a large number of people, surprisingly.
Those subtle and mysterious connections are worth considering.
Perhaps I can enlist the help of my grandfathers and one grandmother, who have moved on from this life to the next?
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